Trying to find a balance between Bug time and me time escapes me quite frequently. I feel guilty when I try to start some type of a life for myself. I know that I shouldn't yet I do. Between household maintenance and dating, sometimes I feel like the time I spend with Bug lacks quality. So I sacrifice some household and some dating. I don't date alot, every couple of months or so so far. Ah I don't know. Today was nice, after an awkward morning with the first introduction of J to Bug and breakfast, we went on a couple of errands to make our house cooler and then it was off on a bike ride to Olde Town to play in the water fountains and then to the hardware store. Caught a couple of yard sales on the way back then we napped. Saturday naps are awesome. I look forward to them each and every week.
Tonight was adult interaction night. Bunko has turned out to be a nice little monthly event. I picked up a free air conditioner from one of the guys that plays. That should help to alleviate the heat issues in my room. I am still trying to get it through my head that I can't afford to live as well as I used to. It's difficult to go from getting everything we wanted/needed to not being able to afford everything we need. Just takes constant evaluation. And craigslist lol.
10:50, I'm tired and tomorrow is Father's day. Maybe a bike ride I guess to celebrate. Night
Saturday, June 16, 2007
Thursday, June 14, 2007
Somewhere to start
Hello,
I just thought I'd share a little bit of my life. My life as a single dad. A little back story for you before I begin.
I have been divorced for a little over a year. I was married for just shy of 9 years and had been with her for 13 years total. I am 34 which means that I had been with her since I was 20. We had a beautiful little boy 3 1/2 years ago and as part of our divorce I maintain the primary residence for my son. He is with me for 3 weeks out of every 4. That all being said, let's begin:
My drive home was fraught with concern over the nights events that I had planned. I got to daycare and picked up my son. Today was mud day at daycare so I walked in and then out to the back yard and there was my son "bug" covered head to toe in glorious mud. He had the biggest smile I had seen in awhile. I reached for my phone to snap a quick picture of him and realized that I had left it in the car.......another kodak moment lost. I'd be a rich man if I had a camera for all of his "moments". We could be regulars on AFV!! Having left my phone in the car there was nothing left to do but hose him off and get him changed into the spare clothes I had brought for him.
Luckily we only live minutes from daycare so we don't waste any valuable time with driving. We got home and walked in the door to have him realize that he left his mail truck at day care and the ensuing fit was quite short considering he hadn't taken a nap. Having learned redirection very early on in his life, I offered him an afternoon snack. Lifesavers gummy things that squirt a stream of juice when you bite down on it. Surprisingly good and the gush of juice was actually pretty cool. I stood in the middle of the living room trying to decide what I needed to do first and then finally popped in Happy feet for him to watch to kind of keep him busy while I got the house ready.
Tomorrow I have a date. This will be the third date and I invited her over for a couple of steaks after bug goes to bed. What was I thinking inviting her over.....my house is in a state of disarray that I am starting to think will never be finished. I bought the house last August and have been in the process of "remodeling" That means that I have destroyed it and have yet to do anything constructive with it. The porblem is that I do something and end up wanting to do something else. I'm getting off subject, I'll save the house for another post. Back to the date. I really like this girl and since this is only the third date, I would like to pretend that I have no clutter and my dishes are always done. Who wouldn't? Let's face it, I have many more important things to do with my time other than making sure I do the dishes every night.......I'm lucky if they get done twice a week. But I can't let her know that until after the fifth date right? So, I've got Happy Feet playing and bug curls up on the couch and grabs his thumb to watch it. I look at him and think....."I can lay with himt for a bit and still get everything done" yea, right. I sat on the couch and grabbed him up in my arms and we laid down to watch a little cartoon. He was asleep within 10 minutes. Poor little buddy, played his little heart out in the mud toady and was beat. I looked at my watch and realize that it is 4 and this is going to really mess with his bedtime schedule. Great :( I opt to let him sleep for a half an hour so I can get some stuff done around the house while he is sleeping. So off I go to do a whirlwind cleaning tour of my house.
Oh my, it's 10:30 and 4:30 comes awfully early. I'll finish later...Night
I just thought I'd share a little bit of my life. My life as a single dad. A little back story for you before I begin.
I have been divorced for a little over a year. I was married for just shy of 9 years and had been with her for 13 years total. I am 34 which means that I had been with her since I was 20. We had a beautiful little boy 3 1/2 years ago and as part of our divorce I maintain the primary residence for my son. He is with me for 3 weeks out of every 4. That all being said, let's begin:
My drive home was fraught with concern over the nights events that I had planned. I got to daycare and picked up my son. Today was mud day at daycare so I walked in and then out to the back yard and there was my son "bug" covered head to toe in glorious mud. He had the biggest smile I had seen in awhile. I reached for my phone to snap a quick picture of him and realized that I had left it in the car.......another kodak moment lost. I'd be a rich man if I had a camera for all of his "moments". We could be regulars on AFV!! Having left my phone in the car there was nothing left to do but hose him off and get him changed into the spare clothes I had brought for him.
Luckily we only live minutes from daycare so we don't waste any valuable time with driving. We got home and walked in the door to have him realize that he left his mail truck at day care and the ensuing fit was quite short considering he hadn't taken a nap. Having learned redirection very early on in his life, I offered him an afternoon snack. Lifesavers gummy things that squirt a stream of juice when you bite down on it. Surprisingly good and the gush of juice was actually pretty cool. I stood in the middle of the living room trying to decide what I needed to do first and then finally popped in Happy feet for him to watch to kind of keep him busy while I got the house ready.
Tomorrow I have a date. This will be the third date and I invited her over for a couple of steaks after bug goes to bed. What was I thinking inviting her over.....my house is in a state of disarray that I am starting to think will never be finished. I bought the house last August and have been in the process of "remodeling" That means that I have destroyed it and have yet to do anything constructive with it. The porblem is that I do something and end up wanting to do something else. I'm getting off subject, I'll save the house for another post. Back to the date. I really like this girl and since this is only the third date, I would like to pretend that I have no clutter and my dishes are always done. Who wouldn't? Let's face it, I have many more important things to do with my time other than making sure I do the dishes every night.......I'm lucky if they get done twice a week. But I can't let her know that until after the fifth date right? So, I've got Happy Feet playing and bug curls up on the couch and grabs his thumb to watch it. I look at him and think....."I can lay with himt for a bit and still get everything done" yea, right. I sat on the couch and grabbed him up in my arms and we laid down to watch a little cartoon. He was asleep within 10 minutes. Poor little buddy, played his little heart out in the mud toady and was beat. I looked at my watch and realize that it is 4 and this is going to really mess with his bedtime schedule. Great :( I opt to let him sleep for a half an hour so I can get some stuff done around the house while he is sleeping. So off I go to do a whirlwind cleaning tour of my house.
Oh my, it's 10:30 and 4:30 comes awfully early. I'll finish later...Night
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